"When someone shows you who they are, believe them."
I'll try.
Believe them the first time, before an accumulation of words or glances offerings and reactions— retractions or silence.
I'll try.
But what about trust?
Projection can be a weapon unfair and blind but so can trust. So, what do we do with trust?
We've been told: trust but verify give to get extend until there is a reason
not to.
Surely, to give is to offer your vulnerability to open with an invitation to see— the world through safety and people through intimacy.
Exhale.
But what if they stab— not with iron but with words or quiet or gossip or lies?
A lesson wrapped in the progression of choosing to trust and learning wisdom.
And what of the mirror? Is it still true that we are who we are every time? The first time?
Time here is brief. Experience anything and you'll see— they and you and we can be the same the first time, the second time, and again until the end, or
we and you and me can become.
So, believe who they are but be gentle, too. They can change.
Despite the absence of any reliable signal— no drooping worthy of alarm, no crisping at the edges, no official declaration of thirst— the plant insists on requiring water at some precise and undisclosed moment.
Its leaves offer only minor adjustments, a change so slight it could be attributed to lighting, mood, or coincidence— the kind of evidence that refuses to testify.
And yet, water must be given.
Too early, and the roots object in silence. Too late, and the same silence deepens, as though agreement had been reached without my participation.
The purple one presents no difficulty. Six blooms at once, as if it had already reviewed the conditions of the room and signed without revision.
The pink one remains undecided. One bloom, paused indefinitely, neither withdrawn nor committed— a position I recognize.
There are, apparently, forms of life that do not improve under observation. This complicates matters.
My grandmother knew when to water them. Not through measurement, not by schedule, and certainly not by consulting the leaves for clarity. She stood near them, which was enough.
I stand near them with coffee. Again with afternoon tea.
The water disappears from the tray without acknowledgment or correction. No confirmation is issued.
The purple one continues, untroubled by my involvement.
The pink one— after a period of complete inaction, with no visible shift in circumstance— opens.
